I actually Have a ham license, but hardly ever use it for the same reasons. Don't get me wrong, when I used to be on the air all the time, I met lots of good people, but there's too much of an old boys club, eager to tell anyone new exactly how the best hams should do things, that combined with people like those in the original post, and a lack of desire to say "hello, where are you. OK goodbye!" as the primary radio type of conversation, pushed me away from ham radio.
Most of the really interesting stuff is unlicensed anyway.