On like note, the HAM repeater traffic I hear is always the same few people who know each other locally, not newcomers or even people driving past the area - however that does happen. I suppose this is to be expected among friends.
Many clubs, repeaters, or nets are not welcoming of newcomers. I don’t think they are necessarily hostile, they just don’t take that extra step of creating a welcoming, fun atmosphere that makes people want to be there. I am as guilty as the next guy of only talking to my friends and ignoring others.
The local club here has a reputation of being a fun place to be and we have a lot of new blood. It wasn’t always that way - no one said a word to me the first meeting I went to years ago. Today we have one guy who goes out of his way to greet all newcomers - whether on the repeater or at the meetings. It’s not an “official” job...it is just his nature. Another club I was once a member of was in an area with a transient population. They went so far as to station a couple of guys near the front door to look for new faces and welcome them to the meeting.
It’s funny how a single individual can be the catalyst that makes a club successful...or a poison pill that drives people away.